I am coming to the conclusion that I am good at taking care of others. I know that it doesn't sound like something only "special" people can do but it is a little different for me. I don't mind going out of my way for others. I always put myself in "their" shoes and that makes me want to help. I want my family and friends to know that if there is anything they ever need they can count on me, no matter what! There lies the problem..."no matter what". My husband goes crazy when he sees me run out the door early morning / late night to help someone. He feels I get taken advantage of a lot. I had to discover my boundaries with people, everyone had different boundaries in my life depending on what they need from me and how it will inconvenience me.
Now looking into another way of taking care of someone, when they are ill. I think if I didn't have Lupus I would be a nurse. Having been in hospitals myself so many times i think I would be great at it. I have learned compassion for the ill through my own illness. Things that would gross out others (throw up, poo etc.) doesn't bother me. When you have to have someone lift you off the toilet because you are so sick and can't get up yourself you learn a whole new level of humility. It embarrassed me to no end at first (it was my mom helping me). But then, when I realized it was not my fault that I was sick and that I had to use the bathroom it just became a reality to me. It also made me realize that I wouldn't mind helping others do the same thing. I understand how it feels to not be able to do everyday things such as getting up and down off the pot. Maybe I am just compassionate... I know it's not a talent but it makes me feel warm and happy knowing the happiness it gives me helping others.
If any of you out there have any ideas of how to help me find what I am good at... let me know...i could use the help

A daily look into my life as a wife, mom, sister to 7, daughter and friend as I am dealing with Systemic Lupus. I am only 33 years young and sometimes deal with what 70 yr. olds deal with. My life is scary, blessed and different from day to day. I know I am not the only "young" woman going through this....maybe through my pain and experience I can help someone...
Welcome to my world...
I hope and pray that you get something from my blog. I have been dealing with my Lupus for 9 years and have been through it all! I was diagnosed at 25 and have had to learn to be a mom, wife and friend while dealing with a chronic illness... hope I can help or you help me!!
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